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… And Quit Worrying About What Other People Are Thinking Of You ?
The 18/40/60 Rule is a handy one to remember :
When you are 18, you worry about what everybody is thinking of you.
When you are 40, you don’t give a darn what anybody thinks of you.
When you are 60, you realise that nobody’s been thinking about you at all.
This is quite an interesting article – Exponential Growth of Money and Success
Focus, Consistency and Patience – formula for persisting with your chosen path, and not to give up and change paths quickly whenever you hit a bump. Be focused on the big picture and your goal. Consistently do the things which you have to do to get to your destination. Have patience to go through the process. People usually give up too soon before they allow their efforts to transform into results.
Then again, be wary of the danger of target fixation. We have to be flexible and adjust our tactics as we navigate the terrain. If it is obviously a dead-end, then it is wiser to drop that approach and look for a way around the obstacle. Know when to quit and what to quit. The important thing is to maintain the momentum and keep moving forward in the direction towards your destination.
The Secret has taken the world by storm.
Have you wondered – what’s so “secret” about it ? What’s behind the eye-catching cover that claims to be an ancient “antidote” which can give you anything you want, if you apply it ?
I am a book fanatic. The local bookstore is my favourite hangout and I can easily spend hundreds of dollars a month on books. However, there is this thing about books with flashy cover, which makes me want to linger around it longer before forking out the extra dollars. I want to base my decision to buy on the substance, not the cover.
Perhaps the marketing hype is too loud. Perhaps the title is just too “secret” and therefore enticing to a curious consumer. After a couple of trips to the bookstore, I finally succumbed to my inquisitive nature and bought it. I want to find out for myself what the hoopla is all about.
What “The Secret” Is Really About…
The book is a compilation of quotes by well-known people – living and ancient (i.e. dead). The author tries to give a structure to the quotes and breaks the book into different categories. However the essence is the “law of attraction” – the weaving thread through the chapters.
The basic concept is visualisation and belief in the thing you want, hence in the process attracting it into your life (hopefully).
If you keep thinking about bad things, likely you’ll attract the bad things into your life. if you visualise and cultivate strong positive emotions, etc about your desired object, your mind will tend to notice the paths to attain your goal. hence, it seems that you are “attracting” it into your life.
So Is “The Secret” Really A Secret ?
If you are an ardent reader of self-help books, you’ll find that the concept is nothing new or “secret”. It’s the marketing hype that makes it take the world by storm.
Having said that, visualisation, strong desire and belief are the first steps to achieving what you want. So a book with this focus is a good read too…
Ultimately, action has to follow to actualise the mental “exercise” as in the law of attraction. Otherwise, it’s like building sand castle in the air. No matter how beautiful the sand castle is, it is still … in the air !
If by reading this book, you can get so inspired to take that first step to start the process of attraction – by thinking right – then I think you would have reaped the benefits from reading it and the money is well spent.
Hey, you could even present this as a gift and capitalize on the sensational-looking cover !
See also … The Secret
Sammi is back !
This is taken from the last of 8 concerts held in Hong Kong in May 2007, marking her return to the world of entertainment.
Besides her brilliant performance, and good rapport with fans and guest performers, one segment which really touched me is her reading out a letter she wrote to herself at the closing of the 8-day concerts.
I like the last sentence most.
This homework – I think you have done it.
I am certain that you have returned.
More importantly, your courage has returned.
At every stage of our lives, everyone needs courage.
To face ourselves, to face the future.
Today’s concert, these eight concerts,
I have proven to myself that I have done it.
I have won over my other self.
Indeed, everyone needs courage at some point in our lives for different reasons. To come back from temporary defeat, to find new strength to go on the journey of our choice, to push ahead even though we see nothing but fog over yonder, guided only by faith and belief in our vision.
Having courage is one thing, doing the necessary homework is important too. In fact doing the homework builds courage. Sometimes, in the pursuit of our dreams, we give up too easily without even doing enough homework. So at the end of the day, we let down no one but ourselves.
Sammi gave an interview with Phoenix TV recently.
I find that she has found that sense of calm that can only come from finding what she was looking for when she left the scene 2 years ago. She exudes beauty arising from maturity in character and person as a whole.
I’m glad she’s back. By being an outward manifestation of someone who has found new meaning and courage, she will be an inspiration to her fans … and me 🙂
See also … Sammi – MTV
I am angry
Angry at folks of my inner circle
Angry at their stupidity and ignorance
Angry at their weak will and inability to figure things out
Despite my incessant pleas and persuading
Despite my setting an example
Simple things yet made so complicated
By human beings’ sheer stupidity and egoes
Causing suffering to one and all
I am pissed, very very pissed
Don’t wait till a person sinks to rock bottom to render help.
I’ve walked away with my future
and cant let go of my past
I’ve walked out the door
this goodbye is my last
the fog sticking to my once dry sweatshirt
I’m losing sight
of what is right and
I’m starting to believe
that my life is a useless fight
I push my legs harder
I’m carrying myself away from what is real
all the people who say they care
make it too hard to feel
found on the side of the road
laying as if dead
the friend who cared the most
wonders what the girl never said
the man, badged and sporting black
tears apart the teenagers life
asks her what was going on
what caused her so much strife
she tells them all her problems
and her depression without choice
tells them of her family
and if they care to hear her voice
all the memories come back to me
all the memories, close but far away
they help me realize
what made me run away
— by Julie Hobson« Previous Entries Next Entries »
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